Sissy: A Coming-of-Gender Story

Sissy: A Coming-of-Gender Story

A heart-wrenching, eye-opening, and giggle-inducing memoir about what it's like to grow up not sure if you're (a) a boy, (b) a girl, (c) something in between, or (d) all of the above.

From the moment a doctor in Raleigh, North Carolina, put "male" on Jacob Tobia's birth certificate, everything went wrong. Alongside "male" came many other, far less neutral words: words that carried expectations about who Jacob was and who Jacob should be, words like "masculine" and "aggressive" and "cargo shorts" and "SPORTS!"

Naturally sensitive, playful, creative, and glitter-obsessed, as a child Jacob was given the label "sissy." In the two decades that followed, "sissy" joined forces with "gay," "trans," "nonbinary," and "too-queer-to-function" to become a source of pride and, today, a rallying cry for a much-needed gender revolution. Through revisiting their childhood and calling out the stereotypes that each of us have faced, Jacob invites us to rethink what we know about gender and offers a bold blueprint for a healed world--one free from gender-based trauma and bursting with trans-inclusive feminism.

From Jacob's Methodist childhood and the hallowed halls of Duke University to the portrait-laden parlors of the White House, Sissy takes you on a gender odyssey you won't soon forget. Writing with the fierce honesty, wildly irreverent humor, and wrenching vulnerability that have made them a media sensation, Jacob shatters the long-held notion that people are easily sortable into "men" and "women." Sissy guarantees that you'll never think about gender--both other people's people's and your own--the same way again.

Title:Sissy: A Coming-of-Gender Story
Edition Language:English
ISBN:9780735218826

    Sissy: A Coming-of-Gender Story Reviews

  • Robin Bonne

    3.5 Stars. The first half of this memoir is amazing. Tobia articulates the painful experiences they had while growing up and I was left with a greater understanding for a different kind of non-binary ...

  • Fabian

    I don't know exactly how I stumbled upon Jacob Tobia's memoir, but the first time I saw this cover & read a short synopsis I was hooked. Immediatley. And to be honest I've never heard of them before, ...

  • da AL

    Everyone should read this. Everyone. Better yet, listen to the author's entertaining and thoughtful audiobook performance! I'm a devout feminist/humanist yet Tobia still had plenty to teach me about g...

  • Hank Stuever

    Full of energy, but zero (I mean ZERO) panache. And I don't mean "panache" in the flamboyant sense, I mean it in the sense that a memoir like this really needs shape, style, structure and a reach for ...

  • Rachael

    Horribly written. Attempts at humor fail miserably and most of the book is spent patting themselves on the back for their very very dull college life/full transcriptions of emails they sent complainin...

  • Maddy Gillette

    Jacob Tobia's memoir focusing on their experience growing into their identity as a genderqueer person was possibly the perfect book for this present moment. Covering their life from early childhood to...

  • Hannah

    Just not my cup of teaI requested that my library purchase this memoir and I so hope that others find it helpful and enlightening. For me, I realized about 40% of the way into the book that I just don...

  • Sheri

    And so, here I am again plunging further out of my comfort zone with a memoir. Memoirs are not books that I've read often, mostly because I thought that they were inspired only by ego, but I admit, I ...

  • Drew Factor

    This book felt important because these sorts of stories should be told, but by the end, it did start to feel incredibly self-indulgent. It seems a bit problematic to frame any instance when they were ...

  • Elizabeth Jackson

    I really wanted to like this book and I’m sure it’s filled with lots of valuable information but it felt like a very padded editorial article, not a book, and it was padded with an absolutely asto...