Sissy: A Coming-Of-Gender Story

Sissy: A Coming-Of-Gender Story

A heart-wrenching, eye-opening, and giggle-inducing memoir about what it's like to grow up not sure if you're (a) a boy, (b) a girl, (c) something in between, or (d) all of the above.

"When the political reality facing this country seems dark, we need shinier, sparklier thinkers in the public eye. With a signature style matched only by their wit, Jacob fits that bill perfectly." --Alan Cumming

From the moment a doctor in Raleigh, North Carolina, put "male" on Jacob Tobia's birth certificate, everything went wrong. Alongside "male" came many other, far less neutral words: words that carried expectations about who Jacob was and who Jacob should be, words like "masculine" and "aggressive" and "cargo shorts" and "SPORTS!"

Naturally sensitive, playful, creative, and glitter-obsessed, as a child Jacob was given the label "sissy." In the two decades that followed, "sissy" joined forces with "gay," "trans," "nonbinary," and "too-queer-to-function" to become a source of pride and, today, a rallying cry for a much-needed gender revolution. Through revisiting their childhood and calling out the stereotypes that each of us have faced, Jacob invites us to rethink what we know about gender and offers a bold blueprint for a healed world--one free from gender-based trauma and bursting with trans-inclusive feminism.

From Jacob's Methodist childhood and the hallowed halls of Duke University to the portrait-laden parlors of the White House, Sissy takes you on a gender odyssey you won't soon forget. Writing with the fierce honesty, wildly irreverent humor, and wrenching vulnerability that have made them a media sensation, Jacob shatters the long-held notion that people are easily sortable into "men" and "women." Sissy guarantees that you'll never think about gender--both other people's people's and your own--the same way again.

Title:Sissy: A Coming-Of-Gender Story
ISBN:9780735218826

    Sissy: A Coming-Of-Gender Story Reviews

  • Fabian

    I don't know exactly how I stumbled upon Jacob Tobia's memoir, but the first time I saw this cover & read a short synopsis I was hooked. Immediatley. And to be honest I've never heard of them before, ...

  • Maddy Gillette

    Jacob Tobia's memoir focusing on their experience growing into their identity as a genderqueer person was possibly the perfect book for this present moment. Covering their life from early childhood to...

  • Sheri

    And so, here I am again plunging further out of my comfort zone with a memoir. Memoirs are not books that I've read often, mostly because I thought that they were inspired only by ego, but I admit, I ...

  • Robin Bonne

    3.5 Stars. The first half of this memoir is amazing. Tobia articulates the painful experiences they had while growing up and I was left with a greater understanding for a different kind of non-binary ...

  • Katy

    3.75* - I loved the first half of this book so much, and overall it's a really engaging, important, and courageous memoir. I did have some issues with how much race privilege and particularly class pr...

  • Spencer Whiteley

    Absolutely hilarious and heart-wrenching on every page. Jacob Tobia made me smile, cry, snap, laugh out loud, and even utter a few “yasss queen”s while reading. As a GNC human myself, this book wa...

  • Meagan

    The kind of book you hug while reading....

  • Rachael

    Horribly written. Attempts at humor fail miserably and most of the book is spent patting themselves on the back for their very very dull college life/full transcriptions of emails they sent complainin...

  • Elizabeth Jackson

    I really wanted to like this book and I’m sure it’s filled with lots of valuable information but it felt like a very padded editorial article, not a book, and it was padded with an absolutely asto...

  • Judy G

    I read this book from my PUblic Library and am now looking to buy it for a friend. This is a very important book. It is a story by someone who realizes at a young age that he is not a typical boy that...